How to change your life script with 15 success landmarks? Jordan Travers & MriyaRun tips for confident dating and self-discovery.
Dating Without Masks: How "Landmarks of Success" Help Overcome Anxiety
It’s normal to feel doubt before meeting someone you've only known online. However, when fear leads to inconsistent behavior or last-minute cancellations, it's time for self-reflection. Social psychologist Jordan Travers suggests two key questions, which MriyaRun enhances with your "Landmarks of Success".
Step 1. Clarify Your Intentions
Question: What am I looking for — casual sex or a serious relationship?
Internal uncertainty is the root of nervous tension.
- Don't deceive yourself: there is a clear difference between "trying" to solve a problem and actually solving it. Be honest about your desires.
- You already know everything: at every level, you already have the knowledge of what you truly need.
- Start thinking: turn on your brain and realize your needs. Once your intention is clear, decisions become easier.
Step 2. Check Your Readiness
Question: Do I actually want to be dating anyone right now?
You might be seeking a relationship because of social expectations rather than inner need.
- The problem is within: sometimes we are the source of our own discomfort.
- Responsibility: take it upon yourself! If you aren't ready to invest emotionally due to a past breakup or career focus, acknowledging this prevents you from blocking your own path.
- Listen to your body: if you feel a total lack of energy, you might be exhausted and worn out. In this case, it's better to go to bed and sleep well than to force a meeting.
Making the Date "Your Show"
- It’s your show: you create your new life and your interactions exactly as you want.
- Do something about it! If you feel uncomfortable during the date, don't just circle in pain — take action.
- The Resistance Jackpot: if you've decided to go but feel intense internal resistance, stay confident — you are on the right track. You've hit the jackpot!
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