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In matters of happiness, thinking is an important point; how we see the world around us, the events that happen to us, the actions we take, and the attitude of other people towards us depends on it.
What makes us unhappy?
Think irrational and negative thinking? You will not believe it, but an overly optimistic view of the world can also harm a person.
The result of such hyperpositive thinking will be dissatisfaction, a decrease in self-esteem; anxiety, instability, inefficiency, in the end a person still becomes unhappy. That is why it is important to look at life in a healthy way, without illusions.
It is necessary to learn a realistic worldview, which prevents the creation of unlikely and sometimes impossible ideas, desires, views, etc., which are not based on reality
Most often, our destructive attitudes, which are laid down in childhood, make our lives miserable. After being processed by upbringing, education, mass media, stereotyped people appear who were drawn a standard scheme of life, but were not taught to truly understand themselves and their desires.
We can see examples of the thinking of an unhappy person in proverbs and phrases: "Health is either there or it is not" - this phrase teaches us passivity, because we do not need to fight for our health. "You can't run away from fate" - but don't we build our own fate? "All men are goats", etc., are examples of erroneous attitudes that have entered our thinking so deeply that we are hardly able to independently track their influence on our worldview.
Therefore, before adopting a certain view of life, it is necessary to think about the source and reason of this view, you need to strive for independent, critical thinking, which is based on the laws of your thinking.
The effect of religion on happiness is relatively small, but it is stronger in the case of older people. It is connected with the support of loved ones in religious communities, communication with God and an optimistic outlook on life.
It has been proven that believers are happier. Believers have a better state of mental health, which is due to religious ways of experiencing troubles, as well as social support.
Bad habits make us unhappy
Tobacco does not allow the vascular system and lungs to return to their normal state. The body is constantly in a state of stress and poisoning, which reduces immunity and general health.
Any addictions create a temporary illusion of happiness, causing serious damage to the body, and postponing the solution of problems, which later only accumulate and intensify.
There comes a time when the number of problems is so great that a person is no longer morally ready to cope with them, and then the bad habit transforms into a serious addiction - alcoholism or drug addiction.
What makes us unhappy is the thought that someone else's life is better than yours.
You should not compare yourself with others and be jealous of others. Any comparison leads to a change in your self-esteem. And not always for the better. How to learn to love and respect yourself?
Comparison which is always objective. After all, people can have different starting conditions of life, circumstances, different abilities and desires. Therefore, if you cannot do without comparison, compare yourself today with yourself yesterday. It is more objective than comparing with others, and much more useful for self-esteem and a sense of happiness. How to change and become better?
A person feels unhappy when he is dependent and not independent
Such a factor as independence and independence is important, they give not only objective self-confidence, but also a sense of self-sufficiency.
The feeling of independence allows a person to come, first of all, according to his desire, according to his needs and interests. After all, it is important for harmony to do what you want yourself. Therefore, do not be afraid to take responsibility for yourself and your life.
Sometimes we worry, get upset over little things, and that makes us unhappy. Be calmer, treat problems more simply, philosophically, are they more important than your health and happiness?
You can't say "yes" to the future without saying "no" to the past A man who lives in the past and cannot let it go feels unhappy, missing important and interesting events of the present.
How not to regret the past?
Appreciate what is happening here and now, in a minute now will be the past, and you will not have time to enjoy them. Life goes forward.
Our life is made unhappy by our expectations. Your feeling of happiness should not depend on another person or certain life circumstances. Waiting for someone - that or something - that will make us happier is always futile. Remember! You are happiness! Happiness is yours!
Do not live up to other people's expectations! Be a happy person now!