demonstrates how different levels of life—from the external environment to deep-seated beliefs—interact with each other. This model helps analyze how changes at each level can affect a person's behavior, capabilities, values, and self-esteem.

Self-esteem is a fundamental aspect of identity and determines not only a person's actions but also the beliefs and roles they adopt. For example, low self-esteem affects how we perceive external circumstances, shapes our behavior, and also influences our capabilities, beliefs, and identity. That is, defense mechanisms and secondary benefits manifest at different levels of the Dilts Pyramid and can affect our self-esteem.

Defense mechanisms can reduce psychological pressure and temporarily support self-esteem. For example, exaggerating one's successes avoids the feeling of failure, and lowering personal standards helps relieve excessive pressure. However, these mechanisms can also limit opportunities for personal growth if used constantly.

A balance between realistic awareness of one's achievements and setting achievable goals is important. An adequate perception of one's mistakes and learning from them helps maintain stable self-esteem without the need to use defense mechanisms.

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The Dilts Pyramid helps stabilize self-esteem because it allows you to analyze at which level to look for problems. For example, if a person feels insecure at the level of capabilities, it may indicate deeper problems at the level of values or identity. Working with these levels will help revise limiting beliefs, change behavior, and create positive changes in life.

The key point is that the higher levels largely determine everything that happens at the lower levels. Self-esteem's defense mechanisms have a significant impact on every level, influencing how we build our behavior, define our capabilities, and choose our life roles.

When a person faces failures or challenges, their inner self-esteem and psychological defense mechanisms help cope with stress and avoid deep emotional trauma. For example, exaggerating one's successes or justifying lowering expectations can be short-term ways to avoid the feeling of failure. However, these mechanisms can limit the ability for self-criticism and learning from mistakes.

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Environment: This is the basic level, responsible for our external conditions. People with low self-esteem may feel that the external environment holds them back, leading to avoidance of change or passivity. Defense mechanisms, such as rationalization or justification, are used to avoid feelings of guilt or failure.

Behavior: Behavior reflects our actions and reactions to events. People with low self-esteem often choose strategies that confirm their fears or insecurities, such as avoiding risks. Defense mechanisms here include self-justification or seeking external culprits for their failures.

Capabilities: Self-esteem affects the perception of one's capabilities. A person with healthy self-esteem believes in their abilities and is ready to develop. Low self-esteem can block skill development through limiting beliefs like "I can't learn this." Defense mechanisms include avoiding new challenges and excessive caution.

Values and Beliefs: This level forms motivation and internal convictions. Negative beliefs, such as "I am unworthy of success," can sabotage our achievements, creating a psychological barrier to progress. Defense mechanisms, like shifting responsibility to circumstances, protect the person from a sense of failure.

Identity: Identity defines who we see ourselves as. People with low self-esteem may adopt roles of "victim" or "failure," which reinforces feelings of helplessness. Defense mechanisms may include exaggerating one's negative traits or, conversely, avoiding their awareness.

Mission: This is the highest level, defining the meaning of our life. A person with low self-esteem may doubt their ability to realize their mission, leading to avoidance of big goals and reduced ambitions.

Achieving healthy self-esteem requires harmonization between the levels of the pyramid. It is important to recognize both your achievements and your mistakes, so as not to get stuck using defense mechanisms that block development. A balance between a realistic assessment of one's capabilities and self-criticism allows for maintaining internal motivation and striving for personal growth.

Thus, the Dilts Pyramid demonstrates how changes in our self-esteem and beliefs can lead to more productive decisions and actions at the level of behavior and environment. When we learn to recognize our defense mechanisms and gradually correct them, we can more effectively achieve our goals, build healthy relationships, and live in accordance with our mission and values.

A hidden factor that can influence goal achievement is secondary benefits. When we strive to achieve our goals, our aim may be to improve our quality of life, gain recognition, or find satisfaction in self-realization. However, some goals may have hidden, implicit benefits—secondary benefits that help avoid psychological discomfort or maintain the status quo.

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are hidden or unconscious advantages that a person receives from a situation, even if it seems harmful or disadvantageous on the surface. Often, such benefits can be related to avoiding responsibility, fear of failure, or a desire to maintain the current state of affairs. Secondary benefits are the result of internal defense mechanisms that help protect self-esteem or avoid psychological stress.

Environment: Secondary benefits can be expressed in passivity or avoidance of change. A person justifies their failures with unfavorable circumstances, although this allows them to avoid responsibility for change.

Behavior: Secondary benefits may include risk avoidance under the guise of "self-care," which prevents potential failures but also blocks growth.

Capabilities: A person may avoid developing new skills, justifying it with limited abilities, thus protecting their self-esteem from possible failure.

Values and Beliefs: Secondary benefits can manifest as beliefs that success is a matter of luck or "not for me," which allows avoiding risk and justifies inaction.

Identity: Adopting the role of a "victim" helps avoid responsibility for one's own life but also keeps the person in a limited mindset.

Mission: A person may avoid large life goals, believing they are unattainable or too complex, lowering expectations to avoid disappointment.

Situation: A person wants to change careers but is afraid of failure and does not dare to take the first steps.

Environment: The person may justify this by saying economic conditions are unfavorable for a career change (secondary benefit — avoiding stress by not taking action).

Behavior: They postpone submitting their resume, justifying it with a lack of time (secondary benefit — avoiding the risk of failure).

Capabilities: The person believes they lack the skills to work successfully in the new field (secondary benefit — avoiding mistakes).

Values and Beliefs: They are convinced that only those who are "lucky" achieve career success, so it's not worth the effort (secondary benefit — avoiding responsibility).

Identity: The person sees themselves as a failure, so they don't try to change anything (secondary benefit — avoiding conflict with their self-perception).

Mission: They see no point in trying, believing they are incapable of finding a true calling (secondary benefit — avoiding disappointment).

Defense mechanisms act as a "shield," protecting self-esteem from stress and conflict. However, these mechanisms often work by creating secondary benefits that mask the real causes of the problems. For example, low self-esteem can trigger defense mechanisms in the form of rationalization, where a person justifies their inaction with external circumstances, maintaining comfort and avoiding risks. This creates a secondary benefit — the temporary avoidance of pain associated with possible failure.

At all levels of the Dilts Pyramid, secondary benefits block development and the achievement of true goals, maintaining internal stability at the cost of refusing active self-exploration and self-improvement.

Secondary benefits, despite their subtlety, can significantly impact our development and ability to achieve goals. They are supported by defense mechanisms that protect self-esteem from immediate pain but, at the same time, limit the potential for growth and development. It is important to be aware of these benefits, analyze their impact on different levels of our lives—from environment to mission—in order to be able to change our lives in accordance with our true aspirations.