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Compassion and empathy are not the same thing
Empathy, compassion and loving kindness are different things and affect the brain in different ways.
- Empathy is the ability to feel the suffering of other people. Areas of pain are activated in the brain, a person feels someone else's pain.
- Compassion is the desire to relieve another person of pain. Areas of "action" are activated in the brain, which push for help.
- Loving-kindness is the desire for another person to be happy. It is different from compassion and looks different in the brain too.
Empathy can lead to helper burnout.
Helping professions include teachers, doctors, social workers, clergy, psychologists, psychoanalysts, psychotherapists, and coaches.
In psychology, the term "grief fatigue" has been used for a long time - it is the burnout of professionals who help professions. Dr. Davidson commented that there is no such thing at the neurophysiological level. That is, compassion does not lead to burnout.
Empathy, when a person feels someone else's pain, rather than compassion, which involves other areas of the brain, leads to burnout. A common reaction to photos of other people's suffering is avoidance. People look away and express disgust. But people who have trained compassion can look at the causes of suffering longer without burning out.
Compassion training takes hours, not years
In Dr. Davidson's randomized controlled trial, participants were given 30 minutes of online meditation for 2 weeks. After the end of the experiment, changes were visible in the brain. This is only 7 hours of meditation in 2 weeks.
They had disturbed areas that are responsible for positive emotions and actions. These zones are also called "motivated or purposeful actions."
The more a person trains compassion, the more these areas of the brain become active, and the more often a person acts altruistically and prosocially. Studies have shown a connection in brain change and behavior.
We need to tune in to other people's suffering to practice compassion, not turn away from it.
Reckless compassionate care is dangerous
Sympathy prompts to help, and a person who sympathizes can run into a burning house without the necessary equipment and experience, and expose himself to danger. We need to practice other qualities that help human flourishing.
Compassion is related to human well-being
Well-being consists of four pillars:
- Awareness
- A relationship is a healthy connection between people who need different qualities. One of them is compassion.
- Insight or curiosity is a natural motivator
- The goal, the mission is our true north. It's not about having a mission somewhere, but having a mission in whatever you do. You can take out the trash with an inner purpose and mission.
Compassion is contagious
Being around practitioners of compassion can be contagious. When being around the Dalai Lama or Tit Nhat Khan, many described feeling different, as if infected by their inner warmth and kindness. This is confirmed by research.
Man is not the strongest and fastest animal in the wild. Therefore, he needs a tribe to survive. Compassion helped people coexist and thrive. Everything that helps life is "stitched" in DNA and passed on. We carry the DNA of surviving ancestors. We still need compassion for a happy life and well-being.
If you want to be happy, practice compassion, especially now, when there is so much suffering and hatred in the world.
Compassion involves recognizing suffering, emotional response, attention regulation, context appraisal, and motivation to help. It is inaccurate to propose one “compassion center” or promise that one practice rewires the brain.
A pause between threat and supportive action
Empathy and compassion are not identical
Empathic distress may overwhelm and prompt withdrawal. Compassion adds caring intention and possible action while preserving the distinction between another person's experience and one's own.
The nervous system and safety
Warm voice, predictability, and supportive contact may influence social-threat appraisal and autonomic regulation. Yet closeness can initially evoke vigilance when prior experience was unsafe.
What training studies suggest
Studies report changes in attention, emotional responses, and helping behavior, but methods and effects vary. Compassion is not a cure for every condition or an obligation to remain gentle at all times.
Words from Dmytro Telushko
“Compassion does not cancel boundaries or responsibility. It helps us see suffering without adding unnecessary humiliation.”
Dmytro Telushko
Reflection tool
The Body Journal supports observation of bodily responses to support, closeness, and boundaries without promises to “calm the nervous system.”
Body Journal