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Self-criticism often promises protection from mistakes and judgment. It sounds like responsibility while attacking the whole person: “I am hopeless,” “I always do this.”
A pause between a mistake, self-criticism, and the next action
Why the inner critic appears
Its function may be to prevent shame, rejection, or punishment. If we humiliate ourselves first, another person’s judgment may feel less surprising. The intention can be protective while the form increases threat.
Critiquing an action versus attacking the self
“The report is missing two sources” contains information. “I am incapable of working properly” is a global verdict. Accurate feedback allows repair; attack evokes defense, freezing, or avoidance.
Why pressure feels effective
Fear may create a short burst. If action begins only after an inner threat, the brain learns to associate work with danger. Perfectionism, procrastination, and hidden mistakes grow.
An alternative without self-excuse
A gentler position does not erase consequences. It separates fact, impact, and next action: what happened; who was affected; what can be repaired; what skill or support is missing?
Words from Dmytro Telushko
“The inner critic speaks in absolutes. Adult responsibility speaks concretely: here is the mistake, its consequence, and a repair step. Change needs clarity, not humiliation.”
Dmytro Telushko — psychologist, author, and founder of MriyaRun
The body during self-criticism
The Body Journal “Conversation with Yourself” helps notice constriction, freezing, fatigue, and the urge to hide before the verdict becomes automatic.
Body Journal “Conversation with Yourself”
A written transition toward accuracy
Write the critical sentence; separate the verifiable fact; name emotion; formulate responsibility; choose the nearest action. The Self-Esteem Through Gratitude Workbook, Part 3 supports a relationship with oneself that is not decided by one result.
A MriyaRun journal focused on gratitude
When support is needed
If self-criticism becomes persistent self-punishment, hopelessness, sleep disruption, or thoughts of self-harm, professional support matters; a crisis requires urgent help.