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Self-confidence is an emotional state of a person
This state comes about through biological processes that can be triggered in an instant and maintained through the skills developed to help make self-confidence a normal state. Development of self-confidence
Modern psychologists divide self-confidence into three factors: • Self-esteem is how much a person values himself. • Narcissism is a destructive form of self-esteem. • Self-efficacy – the ability to achieve personal goals.
The official view of psychology on the problem of developing self-confidence is based on the balance of two positive factors — self-esteem and self-efficacy, avoiding narcissism.
Relying solely on self-esteem without focusing on self-efficacy can lead to short-term confidence and a sense of missed opportunities.
When we value ourselves, respect that, help others, and as a result gain self-respect and believe that we can succeed (self-efficacy), only then do we create fertile ground on which self-confidence can grow
In a state of confidence, there is no narcissism, no negative attitude towards others. Narcissism and self-confidence are two opposite concepts.
Avoid narcissism
The cause of narcissism is self-obsession. It manifests itself in unhealthy attention to one's own desires, needs, successes - and in the way all this is presented to others.
Evaluate all people equally and try not to evaluate others by the level of their material wealth or mental development.
Know how to laugh at yourself. Help others as much as you can. After all, narcissists are so focused on themselves that they are unable to see the needs of other people. Those who have mastered true confidence do not need to feed their egos. They know that everything is fine with them, so they are not afraid to be someone's target for attacks. How to protect yourself in a conflict?
Self-respect
The level of self-respect is determined by our reactions to our own actions in various spheres of life. This gives an opportunity to focus on those aspects of life in which we can show ourselves from the best side, with the aim of building general self-esteem and a sense of self-worth. Why do we need self-esteem?
Focus your attention on what you do best, even if it is the ability to cook the most delicious borscht. Make a list of your skills and abilities and review it every time you fail at something.
"A person must have faith in his own strength in order to succeed, to fight and regain his strength to overcome the inevitable obstacles and injustices of this life" Albert Bandura, famous American psychologist
Self-efficacy
Self-efficacy is one of the most studied areas of self-confidence
Renowned psychologist Albert Bandura offers excellent advice on developing self-efficacy. People with a high sense of self-efficacy usually: view difficulties as obligatory tasks to be completed. How to treat your mistakes and failures?
Self-efficacy is a manifestation of increased interest in the things you are willing to do. Not only that, people with a sufficient level of self-efficacy quickly recover from failures and disappointments. Most want to achieve something. People understand that it will not be easy to implement these plans. A step-by-step system for achieving goals
Bandura and other researchers found that people with a high sense of self-efficacy will achieve their goals, unlike people with a low sense of self-efficacy.
Therefore, people with a low level of self-efficacy:
They avoid difficult tasks, because they are sure that performing complex tasks and solving difficult situations are beyond their capabilities. Such people focus on personal failures and negative consequences and, of course, quickly lose confidence in their own abilities.
Self-efficacy techniques
Here are some mini-tips that will help you believe in your abilities:
Rule of Self-Efficacy: Complete a task, bringing its result to perfection. How to consistently achieve absolutely any goal?
The Rule of Self-Efficacy: Observe the successful actions of others, which is also an important source of self-efficacy.
The Rule of Self-Efficacy: Bandura discovered that some people can simply be convinced that they have the necessary skills and abilities to be successful. Communicate with those people who could convince you that you are capable of completing this or that task.
Self-Efficacy Rule: Pay attention to how you feel before completing a task, convince yourself that you will be able to achieve the task. Believe in yourself!
In Albert Bandura's framework, it is an expectation that one can organize and perform actions in a particular situation. Someone may negotiate confidently and doubt public speaking. This is not a global personality score.
Returning to action after an error
Where it comes from
Mastery experience is often the strongest source. Observing similar people, specific encouragement, and interpreting bodily activation also matter.
Success must be real enough
Empty praise cannot replace skill. Training, rehearsal, feedback, accessible conditions, and gradually increasing difficulty are more useful.
One failure does not erase ability
Preparation, strategy, conditions, and chance can be examined separately, producing a better next experiment instead of “I cannot do this.”
Words from Dmytro Telushko
“Belief in oneself rarely appears before all experience. It usually grows through action, error, help, and another attempt under manageable conditions.”
Dmytro Telushko
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