From "Nice Girl" to Mistress of Your Life: A Deep Dive into "Diary of the Mistress of Her Boundaries"
You know the theory. You've read articles about the importance of saying "no." But why does that knowledge vanish in real life when you feel pressured?
As author Dmytro Telushko writes: “You can read the entire 'Kamasutra'—and that will be knowledge. But real sex is an experience, sometimes involving unexpected acrobatics and thoughts of calling rescue services”.
This book is not about dry theory. It is a tool for gaining experience. It is your map from being a victim of circumstance to becoming a Mistress who has "a spine strong enough to protect a soft heart".
1. The Donkey Philosophy: How to Handle Provocation
The book begins with the powerful metaphor of the "Donkey." Imagine a donkey standing in your path, kicking. Will you hold a grudge against it? Will you spend years trying to teach it manners?
The author emphasizes: people who violate your boundaries often act like this donkey. Your job is not to change them, but to manage yourself. Humor and healthy self-pity help you disconnect from the situation.
Diary of the Mistress of Her Boundaries
2. The Six Spheres of Your Territory
Dmytro Telushko breaks down the concept of boundaries into 6 specific spheres that you will learn to protect:
- Physical Boundaries: Not just touch, but your right to sleep and rest.
- Emotional Boundaries: Your right to feel what you feel. A violation is being used as an "emotional dumpster" for someone else's negativity.
- Mental Boundaries: Your thoughts and values. No one has the right to mock your ideas.
- Material Boundaries: Money and possessions.
- Sexual Boundaries: Comfort and lack of pressure. Compliance in sex just to please a partner is a violation.
- Time Boundaries: Your right to manage your own life energy and time.
3. Daily Practice: Inside the Workbook
This isn't just text to read. The book contains daily log pages acting as a mirror to your life. You will track:
- Energy levels and mood.
- Self-Betrayal Audit: Answering questions like: "Did I agree to something when I wanted to refuse?", "Did I try to be responsible for someone else's mood?".
- Daily Intention: How to make today great for yourself?
4. Love vs. Codependency
A profound insight from the book: “Love without boundaries is not about 'we are one,' it is about 'I disappeared in you like a tea bag in boiling water'”.
If you are constantly "renting yourself out" to your family or partner, it is not love—it is a 24/7 service.
Dmytro Telushko is a counseling psychologist
About the Author
Dmytro Telushko is a counseling psychologist who entered the field from the world of visual design. This allows him to create tools that are not only psychologically deep (based on Transactional Analysis, Jungian Analysis, and NLP) but also structured and visually engaging. He helps you "rewrite the story" of your life, stepping out of parental scripts.
Order the book: https://mriya.run/diary-offer/hospodynya-kordoniv
Author's website: https://telushko-psy.com/