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MriyaRun: Headache as a System Signal, Not Just a "Breakdown"
In today's fast-paced world, a headache is most often perceived as a frustrating obstacle. Our first reaction is to eliminate it as quickly as possible: pop a pill, push through the pain, fuel up on coffee, and grind out the rest of the workday. We treat the body like a machine in which a part has temporarily broken down.
But imagine this situation: you are driving a car, and a red light starts flashing on the dashboard, signaling low oil or engine overheating. Will the problem be solved if you simply smash the light with a hammer or cover it with tape so it stops annoying you? Of course not. The car will break down somewhere in the middle of the highway.
Our body works on a similar principle. Pain rarely speaks by accident. Most often, it is not just a localized symptom, but a complex signal of overload. This can be an overload of the nervous system, muscle spasms, vascular regulation failure, sleep deficit, eye strain, or the consequence of "gritting your teeth" through life, where emotional tension reaches its absolute limit.
Important Medical Disclaimer (Red Flags):
This approach applies to cases where the pain is functional or psychosomatic in nature. If a headache is severe, entirely unusual for you, strikes suddenly (like a thunderclap), is accompanied by speech impairment, vision loss, weakness in the limbs, high fever, vomiting, confusion, or loss of consciousness, or if it appears after a head injury—this is not a time for psychological self-observation. It is an immediate reason to seek emergency medical help.
What is Actually Happening: The Anatomy of Pain
The brain itself does not "ache" in the literal sense of the word, because there are simply no pain receptors in brain tissue (which is why open-brain surgeries are often performed while the patient is awake).
What we feel as pain is most often the result of tension, inflammation, or irritation of the structures surrounding the brain. These include blood vessels, the meninges, as well as the muscles of the head, neck, jaw, and shoulder girdle. This is why a headache so rarely comes alone. It appears alongside a stiff neck, a stinging sensation in the eyes, throbbing in the temples, heaviness in the back of the head, a clenched jaw, or a dull ache between the shoulder blades (the so-called "tech neck").
Medicine divides headaches into primary (e.g., migraines, tension headaches, cluster headaches) and secondary (when the pain is a symptom of another condition, such as hypertension or an infection).
Tension-type headache is the absolute leader in our daily lives.
- How it feels: A dull, squeezing, bilateral pain. People often describe it as «feeling like a tight band is wrapped around the head», «being squeezed in a vise», or «wearing a heavy helmet».
- When it happens: It usually builds up toward the end of the day, after hours of sitting motionless in front of a monitor, eye strain, chronic sleep deprivation, skipping lunch, background stress, or spending a long time in a stuffy room.
Psychosomatics Without Mysticism: How Emotions Become Pain
The word "psychosomatics" often scares people or causes skepticism. Psychosomatics does not mean "you made it all up in your head" or "just think positively and it will go away." From a scientific perspective, it means that the psyche, the nervous and endocrine systems, muscles, blood vessels, and our behavior all function as a single, inseparable network.
When a person lives for weeks or years in a mode of «I have to», «I'll do it myself», «I have no right to stop or make a mistake», the body is often forced to take on what was not processed through words, emotions, or actions.
- Suppressed anger can easily turn into chronic tension in the chewing muscles (bruxism). You stay silent during a conflict at work, and at night your jaws clench with such force that your head is splitting the next morning.
- An unspoken "no" often settles as tightness in the cervical spine. You take on someone else's work, your shoulders reflexively rise to protect your neck (a basic stress response), the muscles spasm, and cut off normal blood flow to the head.
- Perfectionism becomes a constant internal pressure. The head, which is obligated to "generate ideas" and be an "instrument of productivity" all day long, literally refuses to work by the evening.
A Story from Life:
Olena, a department head, suffered for years from severe migraine attacks on the weekends (the so-called "weekend migraine"). She was used to controlling everything and never allowed herself to rest "just because"—there were always household chores or work chats to attend to. Analyzing her condition, she realized a paradoxical thing: the terrible pain was her only legitimate excuse to lie in a dark room, turn off her phone, and do nothing. Her body created the symptom to get the vital pause that her conscious mind refused to give voluntarily.
A headache can become a method of discharge. It is certainly not the best one, but it makes perfect, logical sense to an exhausted nervous system: if fatigue cannot be admitted, a conflict cannot be resolved directly, and an emotion cannot be shown—the body will force you to stop through pain.
What to Pay Attention to: Learning to Read Signals
The MriyaRun approach here is very simple yet profound: do not fight your body; learn to translate its language.
Start tracking not only the fact of the pain itself or its intensity but the entire context surrounding it. Become a researcher of your own life:
- Time and circumstances: When exactly did the pain start? Right after waking up, in the middle of the day, in the evening? Perhaps it started after a difficult phone call, after a meeting, after a workout, or on the weekend?
- Location: Where exactly does it hurt the most? Is it pressing on the forehead and eyes? Throbbing in the temples? Pulling at the back of the neck? Does only one side of the face hurt, or is there a "tight band" feeling?
- Character of the pain: Is it squeezing, throbbing, drilling, pressing from the inside, burning, or accompanied by nausea?
- Triggers (what happened before): Analyze the last few hours. Were you sleep-deprived? Did you skip lunch? Drink a fifth cup of coffee instead of water? Sit hunched over a phone screen for a long time? Was there a hidden conflict, a deadline, a sudden temperature change, or a stuffy office?
- Bodily reactions: What else is your body feeling in that moment? Is your neck stiff like wood? Are your shoulders raised to your ears? Are your teeth clenched? Is your breathing shallow (maybe you are barely breathing at all)?
- Emotional background: What emotion could have been nearby, or what did you suppress earlier? Anger at a partner, fear of missing a deadline, shame over a mistake, deep resentment, a feeling of powerlessness, or total overwhelm?
- Saving actions: What actually helped? A glass of water? Sleep? A 15-minute walk in the cold? The opportunity to vent? Darkness and silence? Or did the pain only go away after taking a pill?
Decoding Example:
Maksym began to notice that his head consistently hurt on Wednesday and Friday afternoons. By observing the context, he saw a pattern: these were the exact days he had hours-long status meetings with a toxic client. Maksym couldn't argue with him; he tensed up, forgot to drink water, sat in an uncomfortable position in front of the camera, and suppressed his irritation. The pain was merely the final chord in this chain of events.
After 7–14 days of such conscious observation, a very clear repeating pattern often emerges. You might discover that the pain comes after a day without food; after conversations with a specific person; when you haven't moved your neck for a long time; when you agreed to extra work even though you wanted to say no; or when things look "fine" on the outside, but suppressed aggression is boiling on the inside.
Self-Observation Practice: A 2-Minute Diary
Try keeping a short headache diary. Not for strict medical control, but for an honest conversation with yourself.
Filling Formula (takes 2 minutes):
- Pain: Where it hurts, how it feels, intensity on a scale from 0 to 10. (Example: Pressure on the back of the head and forehead, intensity 6/10).
- Body: A quick scan. What is going on with the neck, jaw, shoulders, eyes, breathing? (Example: Shoulders tense, breathing very shallow, stomach sucked in).
- Events: What happened 3–6 hours before the pain started? (Example: Submitted a report, skipped lunch, drank 3 coffees in a row, argued with a colleague in a messenger app).
- Emotions: What did I hold back, what did I not say, what did I not allow myself to feel? (Example: Held back anger at a colleague because I didn't want to seem confrontational).
- Need: What do I really need right now? Not what "needs to be done," but what the system is asking for. (Example: A pause, a glass of water, to lie down for 10 minutes in silence, to set a boundary).
- Action: One small, realistic step I can take right now without being a hero. (Example: Stand up, stretch my neck, drink a glass of warm water, and step away from the screen for 5 minutes).
The key question of this practice: «If this pain were a wise signal, what harmful thing is it stopping me from right now, or what true thing (back to myself) is it returning me to?»
What Can Help: A Comprehensive Approach
To combat the most common tension headaches, complex medical interventions are often unnecessary. Very simple but regular things help:
Physiological Baseline:
- Regular and nutritious meals (avoiding blood sugar drops).
- An adequate amount of clean water.
- Regular sleep and ventilation of the room (oxygen is critical for the brain).
- Screen breaks (the 20-20-20 rule: every 20 minutes, look at something 20 feet away for 20 seconds).
- Conscious jaw relaxation (try parting your teeth and relaxing your tongue right now).
- Gentle movement of the neck, shoulders, and chest, a warm shower, and reducing caffeine intake.
Psycho-Emotional Offloading (Equally Important!):
- Learning to say "no" on time so as not to take on extra baggage.
- Ecologically resolving conflicts, or at least acknowledging your anger or irritation out loud (even if only to yourself).
- Acknowledging your own fatigue BEFORE you collapse from exhaustion.
- Lowering the internal demand of "I must do everything perfectly and immediately."
Sometimes a headache isn't about your head at all. It is about a lifestyle that has accumulated too much external pressure and catastrophically little space for yourself.
MriyaRun Insight
When something hurts, we traditionally ask: «How can I remove this symptom as quickly as possible?»
But it is much more mature, deeper, and beneficial for long-term health to ask: «What function is this symptom serving right now?»
- If the headache stops you and puts you in bed—perhaps your system has been vainly begging for a pause and rest for weeks or months.
- If it squeezes your head in a vise—perhaps there is too much internal control and a rigid "I must" somewhere in your life.
- If it regularly repeats in the same situations—it means there is a destructive pattern that it is time to see, track, and gradually change.
A headache is definitely not something to be endured for years or romanticized as a sign of "hard work." But it is absolutely worth learning to listen to. Because our body is the most honest indicator we have. It is often the first to point out the place where we betrayed our needs and lost contact with ourselves.