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Maxim came with an answer he had carried for several years: he lacked discipline. He easily started new projects, bought planners, made morning schedules, and for two or three weeks became almost a model version of himself. Then his energy would abruptly run out. Letters remained unanswered, simple tasks were postponed, and weekends were spent in bed with his phone and a heavy sense of guilt.
The problem was obvious. At least that's what Maxim thought. If he became more organized, everything would finally work. Over several years, he completed three productivity courses, tried dozens of apps, and learned to make very beautiful plans. These plans couldn't withstand his real life.
On their first meeting, psychologist Irina didn't start arguing with his explanation. She asked him to describe his last breakdown as if it were a scene in a film: when it happened, what was happening the day before, how much Maxim slept, what task he put off, who was waiting for the result, and what he did after that. The general "I am powerless" gradually broke down into specific events. This was the beginning of the story's turning point.
Naming the Problem Doesn't Explain What to Do With It
People often come to a psychologist with an already found name: anxiety, burnout, procrastination, low self-esteem, relationship difficulties, lack of motivation. The name helps outline the pain zone. It gives a common language and sometimes brings relief: what is happening can finally be named.
However, one name can encompass very different stories. Two people put off work. One is afraid of getting an evaluation and endlessly perfects the first paragraph. The other doesn't understand the task, is ashamed to ask, and freezes before a vague requirement. The third person sleeps for five hours, takes care of an ill relative, and calls exhaustion laziness. Externally, we see the same unfinished task. The path to change for each will be different.
A medical analogy is helpful here, if not taken too literally. Temperature tells us that something is happening with the body, but it doesn't name the cause. In psychological life, it's the same: anxiety, arguments, or loss of energy are important signals. The cause often consists of several layers - the state of the body, past experience, current circumstances, relationships, the way events are interpreted, and actions that unwittingly maintain the cycle.
Therefore, it is more helpful to look for not one hidden truth, but a working map of the problem. In professional language, this is called formulating the case: a coordinated hypothesis about how difficulties arise, what triggers them now, what sustains them, what resources are already available, and what can be tested in practice.
Facts, Evaluations, and Feelings: Each Has Its Place
The phrase "I am undervalued at work" conveys an important feeling, but leaves much unknown. What exactly happened? Over the last six months, two vacancies opened, and both times another person was chosen. The manager postponed the conversation about promotion criteria three times. Maxim takes on extra tasks, but at general meetings, the manager presents the results. Now we have episodes that can be checked and discussed.
This doesn't make feelings irrelevant. Disappointment, resentment, fear, or anger are also data. They show what is at stake for the person. Precise analysis keeps several layers together:
- observable events: what, where, when, and how many times something happened;
- interpretations: how the person explained these events to themselves;
- feelings and bodily reactions: what they experienced;
- impulses and actions: what they wanted to do and what they did;
- consequences: what changed immediately and what repeated later.
If we leave only the evaluation, we risk fighting in the fog. If we leave only dry facts, the personal meaning of the event will be lost. The working picture is born where facts and feelings can be seen together.
Three Weeks of Strength, Four Days of Disappearance
A burst of effort, overload, and disappearance can form a cycle hidden behind the label “undisciplined.” Original MriyaRun illustration.
Irina asked Maxim to reconstruct the last two months. A recurring pattern emerged. After a difficult conversation with his manager, he promised to "pull himself together," took on more work, and for several weeks worked until one in the morning. He put off the tasks he had to show others the most. During this same period, he often drove to his mother after surgery, but almost never told anyone about it. When his energy ran out, Maxim disappeared and was ashamed to ask for deadlines to be extended.
His friend Andrey only saw the last part of the cycle and advised him to put his phone away. His partner Elena saw the silence and withdrawal and thought that Maxim had cooled off towards her. His manager Sergey saw an employee who agreed to everything, and then suddenly delayed the result. Each held a real fragment. None of the fragments individually explained the whole story.
Several hypotheses appeared in the office. Perhaps Maxim's body wasn't recovering in time. Perhaps he was afraid to show the draft because of the fear of evaluation. Perhaps the vague requirements of the manager forced him to endlessly guess the right answer. This was added to the burden at home and the old habit of proving his worth through usefulness.
Irina didn't choose the most beautiful explanation. They agreed to test the map with small changes.
The Cause Rarely Lives in One Place
One visible signal may be connected to several factors; a working map helps examine the whole system. Original MriyaRun illustration.
In popular psychology, the promise of finding the root of the problem is attractive. It creates a feeling that there is one event or trait somewhere, after its discovery everything will become clear. Sometimes it is indeed possible to see the central mechanism. More often, difficulties are held in a loop of several factors.
Maxim was afraid of evaluation, so he didn't show the draft for a long time. Because of the delay, the task became urgent. He worked at night, exhausted himself, made mistakes, and received sharper feedback. This experience seemed to confirm the initial thought: "I am not good enough and I have to try even harder." The next cycle began with a new burst of energy.
Here one could argue about what was the "true cause": perfectionism, management style, lack of sleep, family burden, or fear of shame. For change, the other question was more important: where can this loop be safely interrupted and what will happen if we test it?
When the First Explanation Seems Convincing
People rarely invent a reason out of thin air. They usually grab the first available story from their environment: "I need more discipline," "It's all because of my childhood," "I have low self-esteem," "I chose the wrong profession," "I simply have an anxious attachment style." Such an explanation might contain a grain of truth. The problem arises when it shuts down further investigation.
A good hypothesis explains not just one episode. It helps predict when difficulties will intensify and suggests a change that can be observed. If someone attributes their struggles to a lack of discipline, and stricter control only leads to a short burst of progress followed by a deeper decline, it's time to expand the map.
An unsuccessful attempt doesn't automatically prove the initial cause wrong. The technique might not have been suitable for the person, it might have been too short, required resources that are currently unavailable, or it might have run into unchangeable circumstances. The precise question is: what exactly did we expect to see, what actually happened, and what new information does this give us about the hypothesis?
One Procrastination — Five Different Stories
Fear of Making a Mistake
Kateryna only procrastinates on presentations when they're being evaluated by senior colleagues. She completes everyday tasks and familiar assignments on time. Her working hypothesis revolves around the fear of visible mistakes. A useful test could be sharing an early draft with one trusted person instead of creating another detailed schedule.
Unclear Task
Denis spends hours wandering around with a report because the phrase "do strategically" doesn't tell him anything. He's ashamed to ask for clarification, fearing he'll appear weak. After writing down three criteria, the work starts moving forward. In this case, self-control was less important than clarity and the right to ask questions.
Exhaustion
Lesya calls herself lazy after having a child. She sleeps in fragments, works part-time, and handles most household chores. Her procrastination speaks to a limited resource. A new productivity app would only add another area where she "failed."
Quiet Protest
Oleg only procrastinates on tasks he agreed to under pressure. He fears conflict in a direct refusal, so "no" appears through delays, forgetting, and passive resistance. Here, working with boundaries and the consequences of a direct answer is necessary.
A State Requiring Assessment
If difficulties with attention, energy, or starting tasks are persistent, encompass various areas, and significantly disrupt life, a professional assessment is warranted. Depressive states, anxiety disorders, ADHD, sleep disorders, pain, substance use, or medical factors are not determined by a single entry and are not corrected by moral calls.
"I Have Anxiety": A Signal of Danger or Life in Uncertainty?
Marina mastered breathing exercises and learned to quickly reduce tension. However, anxiety returned whenever her partner disappeared for a few days and then acted as if nothing had happened. Initially, Marina concluded that she was poorly regulating her emotions. Later, she realized that her nervous system was reacting to the real unpredictability of the relationship.
Regulation was still necessary – it helped her communicate and think. But the trajectory of change had to include clear communication, boundaries, and decisions about what kind of relationship Marina was willing to continue. Calming her body while leaving the situation unchanged meant working only with part of the problem.
Another person's anxiety might arise without an obvious external threat, spread across many areas, and require clinical evaluation. The same word doesn't create the same formula for help.
"I'm Not Getting Promoted": Confidence, Skills, or System Rules?
Anton decided he lacked confidence because he didn't receive a promotion for the third time. He trained his voice and presentations, but no one explained the criteria for the new role. After talking to colleagues, it turned out that the manager valued him as an executor and didn't want to lose him in his current position. Anton performed some strategic tasks, but the authorship of the results remained invisible.
The map now had different directions: request written criteria, gather a portfolio of contributions, ask for a specific project, check skill gaps, and simultaneously explore the external market. Working on confidence could support these steps. It shouldn't replace a conversation about power, rules, and the organization's interests.
Sometimes, the system contains discrimination or conditions that a person cannot change alone. Psychological analysis should not turn a societal or organizational problem into a personal defect.
"We Have Problems in Our Relationship": Which Specific Scenario Is Repeating?
The general phrase becomes actionable when a specific scenario emerges. The last three conversations about money ended in shouting. One partner hides purchases out of fear of control. The other finds out afterward and perceives it as deception. Every time they argue about the amount, although the deeper conflict concerns safety, autonomy, and trust.
The explanation "we can't communicate" is too broad here. The couple might communicate perfectly about travel and daily life. It's the money that triggers old fears and current conflicts. Specific agreements, transparency, and a way to stop humiliation are needed. If there is coercion, threats, or violence in the relationship, joint communication exercises are secondary to a safety plan.
Burnout: When Personal Life Intersects with Conditions
The word "burnout" is often used for any kind of fatigue. A person's life might simultaneously experience excessive workload, lack of control, conflict of values, injustice, caregiving labor, sleep deprivation, depressive symptoms, or physical illness. A vacation might help recover, but it won't change the system that creates the same overload every week.
Therefore, alongside psychological exploration, sometimes a conversation with the employer, legal or union support, redistribution of household chores, and medical evaluation are needed. The more serious the consequences, the more dangerous it is to seek the answer solely within one's character.
How a Working Formulation is Created
A formulation is not a verdict and does not claim to have ultimate knowledge about a person. It's a map that a psychologist and client create together, refining it after new observations. It's helpful to see in it:
- The problem in the person's own words. What do they want to change and why now?
- Specific episodes. When did the difficulties last occur? When were they absent?
- Triggers and context. What people, tasks, places, topics, or states precede the reaction?
- The reinforcing loop. What provides short-term relief but worsens the situation in the long run?
- The history of formation. What experience made this reaction understandable or once useful?
- Resources and exceptions. What already works? Who supports? Where does the person behave differently?
- Several hypotheses. Which explanations withstand the facts, and which remain assumptions?
- A small test. What safe change can help get new data?
A professional formulation also considers culture, social status, experience of discrimination, family and medical context. It doesn't reduce a person to a diagnosis and should change if life contradicts our explanation.
A Small Test Instead of a Big Verdict
A formulation grows through collaborative inquiry and is refined with small, safe tests. Original MriyaRun illustration.
Maxim didn't start with a new course of willpower. The first experiment was an agreement with his manager: before a big task, they would write down three criteria for a finished result, and on the third of the way, Maxim would show a draft. The second was limiting two evening work sessions per week. The third was an honest conversation with his sister about sharing the care of their mother.
Showing the draft was scary, but after several attempts, it turned out that most of the comments could be taken into account early on, without bringing the work to a night-time breakdown. Sleep didn't improve immediately. The manager continued to add urgent tasks, and Maxim had to learn to talk about priorities. Some difficulties remained, but the cycle became visible.
He no longer measured himself with the question "am I finally disciplined?". More precise criteria appeared: how many nights he worked after midnight, when he showed the first version, whether he asked for clarification, how much time he recovered after a stressful week. With such data, he could make decisions.
MriyaRun Practice: A Map of the Problem on One Sheet
Choose one recurring difficulty. Don't try to immediately find its ultimate cause. Take one recent episode and write down the following questions:
- What happened if you describe the event without characterizing yourself and others?
- What did I think about this event?
- What did I feel emotionally and physically?
- What did I do or postpone?
- What did this give me immediately?
- What was the postponed consequence?
- When does a similar situation unfold differently?
- What are three explanations that could correspond to the facts?
- What data am I missing?
- What small and safe test can I conduct during the week?
Return to the record after the test. The goal is to better understand the mechanism, so even an unexpected result is valuable.
MriyaRun Tools for Observation and Verification
CBT SHIFT helps break down an episode into situation, thought, emotion, action, consequence, and alternative perspective. This structure is helpful when a general explanation like "I'm lazy" needs to be transformed into a hypothesis that can be tested.
EQ Emotions Journal supports observing the intensity of feelings, bodily signals, needs, and context. It helps notice that the same behavior can arise from different states.
The Body Journal "Conversation with Myself" is relevant when the picture includes exhaustion, tension, pain, disruption of recovery, or the habit of noticing the body only after a breakdown.
Self-Discovery Course Journal helps explore the broader life context: personal values, recurring roles, desires, and decisions that go beyond a single symptom.
No tool establishes the cause independently. Records create material for reflection, conversation with a psychologist, and verification of changes in real life.
When to Seek Additional Help
Psychological explanation should not delay medical help. Sudden or sharp changes in energy, sleep, memory, appetite, concentration, or behavior; fainting, severe pain, new neurological symptoms, the action of medications or substances require an assessment by a relevant specialist.
If there are thoughts of suicide, a risk of harming oneself or others, violence, or a loss of ability to care for basic safety, immediate local help is needed. In such a situation, exploring the causes is postponed until life and safety are protected.
Cause is a Hypothesis That Life Endorses
After a few months, Maxim didn't become a person who always manages to keep up. He learned to notice earlier the moment when he again gathered to prove his worth with night work. Sometimes he still remained silent before an unclear task. Now this silence was an episode that could be explored, not evidence of a flawed character.
His problem had a name even before therapy. Changes began when the name acquired scenes, people, conditions, bodily boundaries, and several testable hypotheses. The map remained unfinished, but it helped to move forward.
We don't always find one cause that explains everything in the past. Often, it's enough to see what triggers the cycle today, what sustains it, and where the next possible step appears. It is there that the problem ceases to be a label and becomes a story that can be influenced.
Sources and Limits of Statements
- Diagnosis and case formulation in psychiatry — explores individual, collaboratively created formulations, context, and resources.
- Case formulation: a hypothesis about causes, precipitants and maintaining influences — presents formulation as a testable hypothesis that combines assessment and a plan for help.
- Consensus study on case formulation competencies — highlights the importance of formulation and the complexity of achieving consensus among professionals.
- NICE: comprehensive assessment for adults with depression — emphasizes the need to consider severity, context, functioning, and potential alternative explanations.
This article is for educational purposes only. It does not establish a diagnosis and does not replace individual psychological or medical evaluation.