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Can I use the products without a psychologist?

Yes. Most MriyaRun journals, workbooks, books and metaphorical cards can be used independently by following the instructions included with the relevant product. You may work at your own pace, skip exercises that are not suitable for you or stop the practice if it causes significant distress. If you require professional assistance, please contact a qualified professional.

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04 July, 2023

Destructive Motivation: When Pressure Undermines Action

Dmytro Telushko

Dmytro Telushko is a psychologist and author of MriyaRun. He writes about emotions, boundaries, relationships, self-esteem, life scripts, and creates practical self-therapeutic tools for gentle self-exploration.

How shame, fear, and self-punishment may create a short burst of effort but cause long-term exhaustion, and what can replace pressure-based motivation.

This material is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical, psychological, or psychotherapeutic advice. If you are experiencing an acute psychological condition or need professional support, please contact a doctor, psychologist, psychotherapist, or crisis service.

Fear, shame, and punishment can make people act. That is why destructive motivation is hard to notice: tasks are completed while the cost appears later as exhaustion, avoidance, hidden mistakes, and loss of interest.

Activation itself is not the problem. Moderate activation supports attention and action. A system becomes destructive when its main fuel is humiliation, fear of losing connection, constant comparison, or the belief that human worth depends on results.

Low, workable, and excessive activation

Threat narrows attention and may help finish a familiar task. Excessive activation overloads working memory during learning, creativity, and complex decisions. A person begins working to stop inner punishment rather than serve meaning.

rest produces guilt;
mistakes feel like proof of defectiveness;
the goal moves immediately after achievement;
support feels like dangerous softness;
work begins only when last-minute fear becomes intense;
success brings brief relief rather than satisfaction.

Supportive discipline still includes boundaries, schedules, and consequences. Its structure is different: a concrete agreement instead of a global verdict, feedback instead of shame, and a workable step instead of a permanent maximum.

“Pressure can move us quickly, but it does not always show where we are going. Sustainable motivation grows where meaning, sufficient challenge, feedback, and the possibility of remaining human after a mistake are present.”

Dmytro Telushko — psychologist, author, and founder of MriyaRun

The Emotions Journal EQ helps reveal which emotion starts action. CBT SHIFT, Part 1 provides structure for automatic thoughts such as “if it is not perfect, I have failed.”