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Humor helps people find wonder in their lives, enjoy it, and better adapt to it. Also, people with a sense of humor are not afraid to expose themselves to be funny and silly, because they have a slight degree of self-irony. People to avoid
A sense of humor as a quality of character is one of the most prevalent in people
The Ipsos-Reid company surveyed residents of ten countries around the world to find out what qualities they consider most important in representatives of the opposite sex. For residents of most of the surveyed countries, the most important thing in a representative of the opposite sex is the presence of a sense of humor.
A person's sense of humor is based on finding the absurd and funny in everyday things, and on the ability to identify mistakes and inconsistencies in life.
Laughter is an innate human reaction. Already in the third month of life, the child begins to smile. The biological meaning of smiling and laughing is to inform parents that their child is full, healthy and satisfied.
You can tell what kind of person a person is by their laughter. Open and loud laughter is characteristic of a confident, open and strong personality. Restrained laughter speaks of a person's insecurity or his hidden fears. The fears we choose
Why do we need a sense of humor?
The most important thing is that a good sense of humor promotes health. It has been proven that one minute of laughter adds five minutes to life, increasing the flow of oxygen to the brain and significantly reducing physical pain.
A sense of humor and laughter lowers blood pressure and strengthens the immune system.
When laughing, the body is released from the stress hormone - adrenaline. Laughter has an analgesic effect: 10 minutes of laughter replaces a shot of morphine.
A sense of humor as psychological protection
The ability to laugh at oneself is an indicator of a person's mental health. Very serious people who do not tolerate self-irony and irony, intolerant of others, often hating everyone and themselves.
Sometimes a great sense of humor helps us in an argument or negotiation, where we can use humor to devalue the tricky arguments of our opponent, especially if the logical arguments are already weak. How to protect yourself in a conflict? Psychological self-defense
A sense of humor always helps to cope with life's difficulties
In the ability to look at a difficult situation with a sense of humor lies the presence in the character of such qualities as optimism, confidence, self-criticism, creativity and other important qualities.
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A great sense of humor helps resolve conflict situations. Self-irony and irony help defuse the situation.
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The opportunity to experience positive emotions during conflict resolution raises appropriate humor. Also, humor, a good mood, a smile or a witty joke help to establish trusting relationships.
A sense of humor can and should be developed. How to develop a sense of humor?
- It is necessary to first learn to treat yourself without excessive seriousness. Look for what seems funny in yourself. These can be features of your appearance, behavior or character quality. Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself.
- Tell other people funny incidents from your life. To make your humor more sophisticated, apt and beautiful, expand your vocabulary.
- Spy on successful jokes from famous comedians, try to play with your voice, copy poses and gestures.
- Try to find inconsistencies in the surrounding world, its imperfections.
Even if you make a mistake, you can look at it with a sense of humor, saying to yourself: "Oh, how interesting it turned out!"
A joke can reduce tension, create connection, and provide distance from a difficult situation. Humor is a capacity to notice incongruity, context, and people's responses.
A different point of view
Laughter does not always mean consent
People may laugh from discomfort, fear, or conflict avoidance. “I was only joking” does not determine impact. Topic, relationship, power, timing, and the ability to say stop all matter.
Self-irony has a boundary
It can support acceptance of imperfection or disguise habitual self-humiliation. Ask whether the joke leaves more freedom and connection or more shame.
How to practice
Notice precise details, exaggeration, and unexpected comparisons; retell a situation from several positions; do not use another person's vulnerability without consent. When a joke hurts, explaining intent does not replace apology and adjustment.
Words from Dmytro Telushko
“Good humor does not forbid seriousness. It adds space in which a difficult experience stops being the only possible truth.”
Dmytro Telushko
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