Is Envy Bad? Transforming Envy into Success | MriyaRun Psychology

Envy is one of the most complex, "burning," and socially disapproved feelings. It is a social emotion always directed at the Other—someone who possesses something we lack. This cocktail mixes admiration, the sharp pain of one's own deficit, and anger, which provides the energy to acquire what is desired.

In this article, we will remove the "sin" label from envy and examine it as a diagnostic tool for your true needs.

In our culture, envy is often condemned and suppressed. However, from a psychological perspective, dividing feelings into "bad" and "good" is a dead end. Every emotion is a signal. Fear signals danger, anger signals crossed boundaries, and envy signals a deficit and hidden potential.

If you feel envy, it means you are potentially capable of having the same thing, but for some reason (fears, prohibitions, lack of skills), you do not yet allow yourself to have it. It is important to distinguish between emotional experience (what you feel inside) and behavior. Feeling envy is normal; trying to harm the object of envy is destructive.

Envy is unique in its dual nature, which tears a person apart from the inside:

Envy is rarely about objects; it is about the states of being that those objects provide. Instead of looking at it as a simple list, let's look at the meaning. For example, envy of another person's wealth often signifies a deep craving for safety, ease, and the ability to care for loved ones without anxiety. Envy of fame or popularity often points to a need for significance, recognition, and influence. And envy of entrepreneurs or freelancers usually masks a desire for freedom, autonomy, and flexibility in life. Ask yourself: “How will I feel if I have what I envy?”

Psychologically, it is accurate to divide envy by the vector of energy:

Envy consists of three ingredients:

Absolutely. In healthy relationships, people can experience the full spectrum of emotions. Children envy their parents' power; parents envy their children's youth. Legalizing envy in relationships leads to intimacy: when you can speak freely about feelings, you don't need to pretend to be perfect, and trust grows.

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