From Lizard to Master: The Evolution of Your Emotional Intelligence
(Or: Why we freeze when we need to act, and how to climb the ladder of evolution)
Imagine the scene: a conflict at work or another argument at home. What happens to you in the first second? Do you coldly analyze the arguments? Or perhaps your heart starts pounding, your stomach knots up, and your mind goes blank—or fills with an urge to scream?
If you recognized the second scenario—congratulations, you are a normal human with normal biology. But to be a happy and effective human, biology isn't enough. You need psychological evolution.
Today, we will explore the Scale of Emotional Awareness. This is your map showing where you are: in the "cave" of instincts or at the peak of life management. And most importantly, how MriyaRun tools help you climb this ladder.
The "Basement" of Consciousness: Where Instincts Live
(Levels 1–3: Unconscious, somatic, and chaotic processes)
Our most ancient brain part (sometimes called the "reptilian brain") rules here. Its task is survival, not happiness. There are no words here, only impulses.
Level 1: Numbness — The "Play Dead" Strategy
This is the oldest defense mechanism. When the psyche cannot cope with pain or fear, it simply "flips the switch."
- How it feels: "I feel nothing," "I don't care," complete apathy, a glazed look. You see the situation, but it's as if you are not in your body.
- The Danger: This isn't calmness; it's freezing. Emotions haven't disappeared; they are preserved deep inside, destroying your health.
Level 2: Physical Sensations — The Body Screams
You've climbed a bit higher. You already feel, but you don't yet understand what.
- How it feels: A lump in the throat, heaviness in the chest, clenched jaws, trembling hands, sudden heat.
- The Trap: A person goes to a doctor to treat their stomach or heart, not realizing it's not a disease, but unexpressed fear or anger. This is the level of psychosomatics.
Level 3: Chaos — Emotional Storm
Energy bursts out, but it is uncontrolled. This is the state of an infant or a wounded animal.
- How it feels: "I'm overwhelmed," hysteria, flooding tears, a desire to smash everything. There are so many emotions that they flood the mind.
- The Problem: You cannot solve problems at this level. You can only create new ones.
THE LINGUISTIC LINE
(The Rubicon of Evolution)
This is the most critical boundary. Everything below is automatic reaction. Everything above is the zone of human consciousness. Crossing this line means finding words for your state.
This is exactly where the MriyaRun project comes to the rescue. Our tools are the bridge across this abyss.
The Dawn of Reason: Awareness
(Levels 4–5: Cognitive Level)
When we cross the line, we stop being passengers and become drivers.
Level 4: Differentiation — The Magic of Naming
In fairy tales, one who knows a demon's true name gains power over it. It works the same in psychology.
- The Essence: You are capable of saying: "It's not just 'I feel bad.' I feel disappointment mixed with anger."
- MriyaRun Tool:MAC Cards (e.g., "My Myth"): When there are no words, the image on the card helps "pull" the feeling to the surface. You look at the card and suddenly realize: "Oh, this is about my loneliness!"The Emotion Diary | EQ: Helps expand your emotional vocabulary.
- MAC Cards (e.g., "My Myth"): When there are no words, the image on the card helps "pull" the feeling to the surface. You look at the card and suddenly realize: "Oh, this is about my loneliness!"
- The Emotion Diary | EQ: Helps expand your emotional vocabulary.
The Emotion Diary | EQ: Helps expand your emotional vocabulary
Level 5: Causality — Finding the Root
Knowing what you feel isn't enough. You need to understand why.
- The Essence: You see the connection: "I'm angry at my husband not because he didn't wash the dishes, but because I'm tired and lack support." This is the level of insight.
- MriyaRun Tool:Workbooks (e.g., "The Mistress of Her Boundaries Diary"): These are built on questions that lead you from the emotion to its cause. You discover your triggers and patterns.
- Workbooks (e.g., "The Mistress of Her Boundaries Diary"): These are built on questions that lead you from the emotion to its cause. You discover your triggers and patterns.
The Peak: Mastery of Interaction
(Levels 6–7: The Sage Level)
Emotional intelligence isn't just about you. It's about how you build relationships with the world.
Level 6: Empathy — Feeling the Other
This is an intuitive connection. You step beyond your own ego.
- The Essence: You read another person's state without words. You understand that a colleague's aggression is actually their fear of making a mistake. This changes your attitude from anger to compassion.
Level 7: Interaction — Top Gun Level
This is the goal of evolution. The ability to build deep, ecological, and effective relationships.
- The Essence: You don't just understand emotions (yours and others'); you know what to do with them. You can calm a conflict with one word. You can inspire a team. You build intimacy without losing yourself.
- The Result: This is the level of leadership, a happy marriage, and inner harmony.
How Does MriyaRun Help You Rise?
Most people get "stuck" at Level 2 (body tension) or Level 3 (chaotic breakdowns). Crossing the "Linguistic Line" alone is hard—we weren't taught this in school.
MriyaRun products are created as simulators for this transition:
- MAC Cards are your elevator from the basement of the unconscious (Levels 1-3) to understanding (Level 4). They give a voice to your body and intuition.
- Diaries and Workbooks are your laboratory for work at Levels 4 and 5. They teach you to analyze causes and call things by their names.
- Books and Courses provide the strategy for reaching Levels 6 and 7, teaching empathy and the laws of interaction.
Remember: You cannot control what you are not aware of. As long as you are at the "lizard" level, emotions control you. But as soon as you start moving up this scale, you become the Author of your life.
Start your journey upward today with self-discovery tools at MriyaRun.