: Research on 100 top executives: how successful leaders think, act, and feel. Insights on emotional intelligence, personal boundaries, and stress resilience.
Anatomy of Leadership: 21 Psychological Traits of Highly Successful Executives
What defines a truly effective leader? Is it charisma or a set of trainable skills? American psychologists Joseph Kengemi and Casimir Kowalski conducted extensive research on 100 top-level executives to find the "leadership code."
They discovered a specific set of qualities shared by all successful top managers. This article serves as a roadmap for your professional and personal growth, enhanced with practical tools from MriyaRun.

Block 1: The Strategist's Mindset
Success starts in the mind. How a leader processes information determines the company's fate.
1. Capacity for Extrapolation
Strong leaders don't wait for 100% of the data. They intuitively understand where a situation is heading and can foresee consequences. To develop this, one must regularly structure their thoughts.
Tool: The Self-Knowledge Diary (https://mriya.run/offer-self-up) helps track thinking patterns.
2. Multitasking and Flexibility
Fixating on one problem hinders progress. Mental flexibility—the ability to focus on multiple projects simultaneously without losing control—is essential.
3. Resilience in Uncertainty
A key quality of a modern leader. They are not afraid of the unknown and can operate effectively without immediate feedback, solving problems that paralyze others.
4. Insight and Intuition
Successful leaders have high receptivity. They can instantly filter out noise, separating the essential from the trivial—a skill often called "street smarts."
Block 2: Personal Boundaries & Handling Aggression
Leadership involves interaction, often including conflict and pressure.
5. Ability to Take Charge
A true leader doesn't apologize for their authority. They ignore envy or resentment and simply do their job. This requires strong personal boundaries.
Key Resource: If you struggle with saying "no" or feeling guilty, check out the "Diary of the Mistress of Her Boundaries" (https://mriya.run/diary-offer/hospodynya-kordoniv). This 412-page workbook is designed to build healthy authority (available in Ukrainian).
6. Persistence without Dogmatism
Leaders are ready to swim against the current if they believe in their ideas, relying on internal conviction rather than external approval.
7. Collaboration and Emotional Control
Successful leaders can suppress hostility for the sake of the goal. They build bridges and effective synergistic relationships, even with difficult people.
8. Initiative and Risk
Leaders lead the charge, seeing opportunities where others see risks.
9. Energy and Endurance
Intellect without energy is useless. Successful leaders possess immense stamina to keep going when others are exhausted.
Block 3: Emotional Intelligence (EQ) & People Development
10. Betting on Others
Leaders invest time in their team's growth, unafraid of competition. They know a strong team strengthens the leader.
11. Sensitivity and Empathy
Top executives have a "personal radar" for their colleagues' feelings. This helps prevent conflicts.
Tool: Develop this skill with the Emotional Intelligence Workbook (https://mriya.run/offer-emotions) and Metaphorical Cards (https://mriya.run/metaphoric-cards).
12. Identification with the Cause, Not Power
Power is a tool, not a goal. Leaders derive satisfaction from team achievements, not dominance.
13. Compassion without Weakness
Leaders can be compassionate without becoming helpless. Trying to please everyone is a path to failure.
14. Focus on Organizational Growth
True leaders think about their legacy, building systems that survive them.
15. Independence
They listen to everyone but decide independently. They would rather resign than compromise their core values.
Block 4: Personal Ideal & Harmony
16. Flexibility
Openness to new ideas and processes.
17. Stress Resistance
Leaders manage their lives and health, understanding that burnout is unprofessional. They maintain a work-life balance.
18. Having a Purpose
They wake up with a clear "why." Their goal is a dream turned into a plan. Use the Diary Planner (https://mriya.run/offer-light) to structure your goals.
19. Community Leadership
Using power for the benefit of society and the environment.
20. Sense of Humor
Humor is a defense mechanism of the intellect. The ability to laugh at oneself relieves tension and restores resources.
21. Integrity and Gratitude
Leaders live in peace with themselves. Gratitude practice is vital for this balance.
Tool: The Gratitude Diary (https://mriya.run/offer-thanks) is a simple way to increase happiness and resilience.
Conclusion
Leadership begins with self-leadership. The best investment is in your psychological stability and emotional intelligence.
Start by building your boundaries. Learn more about the best-selling book "Diary of the Mistress of Her Boundaries" here: https://mriya.run/diary-offer/hospodynya-kordoniv
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