We all try to achieve high standards in life by setting ambitious goals. As a result, our expectations are often too high, which leads to disappointment when reality does not meet expectations. We want to be perfect in everything: work, relationships, health, self-development. But why does it often fail? And why do we feel frustrated even when we put in a lot of effort?
High standards and reality
In today's world, where productivity, success and achievement are valued, it often seems that we must be 100% efficient in every area of our lives.
However, such an idealistic attitude inevitably leads to stress and frustration.
If we could really achieve such results continuously, it would require excessive effort and constant dedication, which is ultimately exhausting.
Instead of accepting the process as a part of life, we often judge ourselves only by the results, and if these results do not meet 100% standards, we feel defeated.
This is the main reason for our frustration.
Why do we get upset when we don't live up to our ideals?
Unrealistic expectations
We often set ourselves inflated goals without taking into account possible difficulties and obstacles on the way to achieving them. The idea that everything should be perfect leads to the fact that even the slightest shortcomings are perceived as a defeat.
Comparison with others
On social media, we are constantly exposed to the successes of other people, and this gives rise to the feeling that we are not good enough or are not reaching the level we see around us. This comparison with others often leads to depression and low self-esteem.
Failure to recognize our own achievements
Sometimes we don't notice our achievements or recognize their importance because they don't meet the ideal standard. That's why it's important to learn to appreciate even small steps forward and not compare them to an unattainable ideal.
What actually happened
You took action
Regardless of the results, it's important to remember that you took action. Acting is already a big step. It means you didn't stand still, you tried to change the situation. The problem is that we are used to evaluating our activities only by results, and if the result does not meet expectations, we perceive it as a defeat. But it is important to realize that the process of change and self-development is not always instantaneous and takes time.
How do you maintain a healthy attitude towards yourself?
Reconsider your expectations
Ask yourself: are these requirements realistic for you? Are you setting yourself excessive goals? Idealizing yourself and your achievements is not always helpful. If you set goals for yourself that are impossible to consistently maintain 100%, it can lead to constant disappointment.
Value the process, not just the result
Instead of focusing solely on the end result, pay attention to the process. Every step forward counts, and even if the result doesn't meet your high expectations, it's important to see progress. For example, if you have started to change your habits, even if they are not perfect, this is already a big step towards change.
Practice self-support. Be kind to yourself.
If you don't achieve 100% of the result, don't punish yourself. Give yourself the right to make mistakes and imperfections, because this is part of the growth process. It is important to learn to accept yourself for who you are and recognize even small achievements.
Set yourself up for flexibility
Life doesn't always go according to plan. Sometimes you need to adapt to new conditions and change your strategies. It is important not to dwell on failures but to find opportunities for development even in difficult situations.
In our lives, everything will not always go according to plan.
It is important to learn to evaluate your achievements not only by the results, but also by the efforts you make. Every step, even if it doesn't lead to the perfect result, is important.
Your actions, even when they do not lead to 100% success, are invaluable for your development.